Comparison is the thief of joy, this is how Shane Parish closes his book, Clear Thinking.
But it's how he should have started it.
Maybe that's another book, but we have to want the right things first. What's important?
My gripe is that this book was not a daily devotional. It could've started with wanting the big things , enforce that each day, and given specific tactics, ideas, and questions. 
We want actions, but what are we acting towards?
Comparison is the thief of joy. We have to be careful about our wants. It is easy to want the wrong things. Many celebrities have noted that the downside of fame – the things we don't see! – do not balance the upside.
And this is where the book could have started. Making sure we use clear thinking on the important things. 
It's a good book, even though it isn't a daily devotional. It's broken down into two big ideas.
First, do we have the right mindset. Does someone have the right person on their shoulder, whispering in their ear? Do they have the right feelings in their heart? Do they have the norms, customs, culture, habits, in their life that leave them to the things they want?
The ways we act. The things we say. How we compose emails. How quickly we respond to text messages: and with what emojis. That's how our norms. It's the slope of our line (y=mx+b). There's only so much we can do, but we need to have something helpful there.
Second, the systems we can design around our mindset. We aren't always going to be humble, or getting after it, or on top of our game. In those situations, we rely on the systems we design around us.
The four enemies we face are emotion, ego, social pressure, and inertia. These are the enemies that rise up and whisper to our mindset. They are louder than the normal voices in our head. They steal our heart, they infiltrate our culture.
What may look like discipline often involves a carefully created environment to encourage certain behaviors. - Shane Parrish
The good news is, these enemies are not that strong. For example, Shane writes that it is easier to go to the gym seven days a week than three. Objectively this doesn't make sense, but it uses the principle of a inertia to our advantage.
A tactic to avoid the social enemy is to have personal rules. I don't drink on Thursday nights. I always sleep on it before signing a deal.
The influence of monger, the stoics, and the many others of Shane's parish run through this book. So much of it is about avoiding mistakes. It's about avoiding these enemies, not through choice, but having good design and the right mindset.
The book also includes a section on decisions in action. It offers incredibly helpful specific questions for decision-makers to ask. I won't spoil them here. 
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